Entitled 32-year-old dad relies on 40-year-old stepbrother for money to pay for his son's healthcare, stepbrother stops the support after discovering dad is expecting another child: 'This is unacceptable'

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 2, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

If you can't afford to take care of the current child you have, what can possibly make you think that you can afford to have another one?

Granted, the guy in the story below probably didn't plan to have a second child, but that still doesn't excuse him from going for his stepbrother and asking for money to help with his wife's pregnancy, especially after you find out that he barely even talks to his ex and has no relationship with his first child. 

Yep, he pretty much gave up on his "old" family and is now too busy building his "new" one. And the only person in his life who still cares about the family that was left behind is the stepbrother. That gives him every right to deny money from this entitled dad, if you ask us.

What should the stepbrother do? Should he keep supporting his nephew? Should he give money to the expecting couple, even if he feels like they don't deserve it? Keep scrolling to read the full story and let us know what you think in the comments below.

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    AITA for demanding my stepbrother start seeing his son again before I give him money for his pregnant girlfriend?

    My (40M) stepbrother (32M) has a son (4M) from his previous marriage to Emily (29F). Their relationship after the divorce has been turbulent, to say the least.
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    He used to be more involved in his son's life, but last year they had a dispute over child support, and since then he hasn't really seen him.
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    I've tried to help them patch things up for the sake of the kid, but it's been impossible. I stay in touch with Emily and occasionally see her and the child.
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    I also cover the boy's healthcare. Last month, my stepbrother called me. He's been dating his current girlfriend (25) for a couple of months, and he told me she's pregnant.
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    They're genuinely happy about it. I tried to be supportive, but I felt it was questionable that he was jumping into having another child so quickly.
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    The bigger issue came when he asked me for money, something he does occasionally, saying he needed help supporting his girlfriend through the pregnancy because she doesn't have a job and his salary is low.
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    I was frustrated by the whole situation but tried to approach it constructively. I offered to help financially with the pregnancy if he repaired his co-parenting relationship with Emily and started seeing his son regularly again.
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    I even offered to help with his child support arrears. He got offended. He insisted that he obviously wanted to see his son but claimed it was entirely Emily's fault that he hadn't.
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    He said he needed to focus on his girlfriend and the upcoming baby right now, and that it wasn't the time to deal with his issues with Emily.
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    He said he might revisit them after the new baby is born. I told him that wasn't acceptable and that if he stayed in that position, I couldn't help financially.
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    He got really upset and accused me of not caring about him or his new family, and of siding with Emily, which isn't true.
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    WarDog 1983 Stop giving your dodbeat brother money. Give your nephew money and keep a relationship with him.
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    But honestly don't do anything more for your brother or the young adult he knocked up. If you keep helping him your enabling that disaster
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    AgonistPhD NTA. Why is this guy knocking people up when he can't afford it?
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    CrabbiestAsp NTA. But honestly, that kid deserves a dad that isn't being bribed to be in his life. Stop financially supporting your brother and his poor choices.
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    Sugar_Mama76 NTA. Standard rule of "don't breed what you can't feed” applies. Tell him you're supporting his OTHER child so you don't have the spare money to support yet another baby mama.
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    ms_cannoteven You can't control your brother. I would decline to help him and I'd give money to Emily (if you choose to give money).
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    angelicak92 He needs to stop having children that he can not support. You need to stop enabling a grown man who just wants money.
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